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Three Years.

June 25, 2010

I missed a very important anniversary this month. I missed my three year anniversary of moving to the East Coast. I actually didn’t even realize I had forgotten until I was chatting with a new girl in the office yesterday and she asked me how long I had been living here. That’s when I realized that I had plum forgotten that June 14 was my three year anniversary of moving to New Jersey.

When I tell people I moved here from Oregon, people often react with wide eyes, exclaiming, “Really? It must be really different there.”

New Jersey certainly is different from Oregon, but there’s a lot of similarities too. Both states have restaurants and gas stations. Both states speak the same language (most of the time). Both states have Target. I drove to work and dealt with traffic. I didn’t have to pump my own gas, so in my world, New Jersey and Oregon are practically the same thing.

I think moving to New York City was more of a culture shock, just having so many more different types of people that you have to deal with and adjust to interacting with on a daily basis. Having lived in New Jersey for two years, I came into Manhattan several times a week until I officially became a resident. Manhattan didn’t feel as strange and scary as I think it must be for people who just move here directly. I was used to getting around on the subway, I was used to how atrociously expensive this place is, and I was used to restaurants that cram you in like sardines.

Sometimes people ask me if I miss Oregon, and it’s strange because most of the time, I don’t think about Oregon. I miss my family, that’s for sure. I wish Oregon was closer so I could visit it more. I certainly miss it more when I have just returned from visiting. But I don’t want to live there right now. I love living in New York City. I love living three blocks from Central Park, I love all the restaurants that are in my neighborhood, I love that I can walk a block to the movie theater. I love that people get so excited about New York City and it gets me excited too. When I see a red double-decker tour bus, I think, Wow, I get to live in a place that other people come to visit on their vacation.

Of course, it’s not like living a vacation. I work full-time. I have to go grocery shopping and stay within budget because it’s easy to spend a lot money when you live in such an expensive place. I have chores to do and pay bills on time.

But when I walk down the streets of this city, I think, “I love it. I still love it.”

I don’t know if Erik and I will stay here forever. A lot of people also ask us if we are planning on staying in the city or where we hope to end up. There are a lot of places I would also like to live, and there are certainly “easier” and “nicer” places to live and raise a family. But we are still many years away from planning a family, so leaving the city doesn’t seem necessary unless we were planning on popping out some babies. In this economy, I feel like it’s difficult to choose to move somewhere new without a guaranteed job and there isn’t a place where we feel compelled to risk so much.

Besides, doesn’t it take something like 7 years before you’re considered a true New Yorker? I may have to stay until then at least.

Me and Manhattan during my first week in New Jersey, June 2007

  1. June 25, 2010 11:35 AM

    Wow. 🙂 Three years. You are my resident NYer, even if you haven’t lived there for 7 yrs. 🙂

  2. June 25, 2010 2:56 PM

    Yep. Likewise. That’s an AWESOME skyline – (I’m a fan of skylines…). I’m a midwesterner – moved from my homestate of Michigan to Indianapolis area about six years ago, and though it has many of the same similarities/differences that you describe from your end, it does feel so much different just in quality of life and pace. So much better here, I think, than Detroit. Of course, my wife would say our move wouldn’t have been possible without SuperTarget being here! We may go back someday, but maybe not. Life is good here, and we love it. Hope you and Erik end up wherever makes you happiest. In the meantime, you’re also my resident NYer!

    • June 25, 2010 4:45 PM

      I miss the skyline! LOL. I don’t see it anymore! I see the buildings on the street I’m on, and I can sometimes see the Empire State Building depending on where I am (luckily I can see it from where I work which is pretty sweet). But sadly the view of my bedroom? Is the roof of a dry cleaner. Sigh.

  3. June 25, 2010 3:36 PM

    And I can’t wait to (hopefully) be your neighbor!!!!!!!!

  4. June 25, 2010 4:41 PM

    Aww that’s cool! I don’t think I could EVER move across the country. Moving across the province was enough for me! Haha

  5. Simon permalink
    June 26, 2010 7:08 AM

    Hi Allison
    Just came across your blog…from across the pond (Australia). Have really enjoyed reading and I must say you write very well. Unfortunately T1 hits hard here as well, but I guess thats no revelation. I look forward to reading your future entries, I was really moved by your recent post entitled Ä controlling definition” and I am glad that I am not the only one who runs multiple tests to get my meter average down!
    Keep up the great work

    • June 26, 2010 6:48 PM

      Thanks Simon! You’re the 2nd Australian to send me a note this week. Was I in something in Australia that I don’t know about?

      • Simon permalink
        June 28, 2010 6:43 AM

        Hey Allison
        Your blog got a mention in an online newsletter released by an Australian T1 support group called “Reality Check”. ( I see that you gave them a mention on here. It is basically an online volunteer run forum for young adults with T1….the moderators must put a lot of work into it. Once again keep up the great blogging. It’s such a small world!

  6. June 28, 2010 10:20 AM

    I found visiting Canada before the move was really helpful too in knowing what to expect. I still think it’s amazing that you live in NY – nothing can beat the feeling of walking down the street feeling such a love for the place you call home.

    And I have to thank you again for my amazing surprise this week!!! ❤ ❤

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