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Stepping Up to Love Harder.

January 20, 2010

Ignore this morning’s post (I wasn’t supposed to put it up). Instead, read this:

Many of you have probably noticed some new faces popping up in the comments section of my blog. They are the fantastic folks of a new community I’ve joined called 20sb. One of the members is a caring Canadian named Brandy. She is a sweetheart. And she is in love with a man who has just been diagnosed with Multiple Myeloma.

I know a thing or two about living with an illness that could kill you. But Multiple Myeloma is an incurable cancer with a not so hot life expectancy rate. I know what it’s like to receive a diagnosis. I know what it’s like to be afraid. I know what a roller coaster ride it is, not knowing what the future or even the next day, holds for you. And I also know what a wonderful feeling it is to know that there are people who are willing to sacrifice to help you, with little or no gain for themselves in the long run, because of the wonderful donations from friends and family over the course of my 16 years with type 1 diabetes.

That said, the 20sb community is raising money for the Multiple Myeloma Research Foundation in his name. The campaign is called Love Harder and it’s aimed at helping to save the lives of 750,000 people.

This is their story.


My name is Brandy. And I have a blog.

And a plea.

I use my blog to showcase the crazy I meet everyday, share the stories of the kids I teach, and document my love for tequila, dairy products and the abdominal muscles of Ryan Reynolds.

Rarely do I talk about personal issues on my blog– as personal as the dude that I adore. But I need your help. And it involves my dude.

He’s a guy who made math comics for my class, so they would love learning about addition. He’s the guy who sends my friends gift cards when they are having hard times, who remembers every story I ever told him, who was the first person I celebrated with when I got a teaching job.

He’s the guy who sent flowers to me at school– dozens of my favourite pink roses just because he loves me. He’s a guy who has spent a year patiently explaining (and re-explaining) everything there is to know about football during the important games when silence is preferred.

He’s made me word puzzles and comics and stayed up late playing Scrabble with me (even though I beat him almost every time). He’s listened to me cry about school and family and jobs. He is everything I never knew I needed and everything I always knew I wanted.

I realize this all sounds dramatic, a Lifetime movie in the making– but this is life. Right now. And I’m throwing away any hint of ego and am humbly asking for you to pray or think kind thoughts. If you are able to pass this on, thank you.

This isn’t a call for sympathy or a plea for pity. It’s just one girl hoping you can think positive thoughts for the person she adores. If my current heartache provides you with anything, let it be the reminder that life is short, love is unbending and no one knows what could happen next.

Thank you for reading this, and if you haven’t already? Please tell someone you love them today.

I did.

Where Your Money Goes

Some facts about the MMRF:

+ The American Institute of Philanthropy recently named The Multiple Myeloma Research Foundation one of the best organizations to give to in terms of their accountability and use of resources.

+ By working closely with researchers, clinicians and partners in the biotech and pharmaceutical industry, the MMRF has helped bring multiple myeloma patients four new treatments that are extending lives around the globe.

+ The MMRF has advanced twenty Phase I and Phase II clinical trials. They need your support to advance these clinical research programs and accelerate the development of better, more effective treatments.

+ The MMRF’s Multiple Myeloma Genomics Initiative recently became the first to sequence the multiple myeloma whole genome in its entirety.

+ A whopping 98% of your donation to the MMRF will be used immediately to support high-priority multiple myeloma research.

+ With diminishing funding for early stage drug development and the next myeloma treatments not expected to be approved until 2011, the MMRF desperately needs your help.

  1. January 20, 2010 2:37 PM

    I just found your blog from 20sb and this is about the third time I’ve come across this post today. I’m going to check it out this time. Thanks for sharing!

    • January 20, 2010 2:42 PM

      Thanks for stopping by! It’s great to see what a community can do for each other.

  2. January 20, 2010 2:39 PM

    Thanks for blogging about this…I’ve seen a few bloggers posting the message/video, and I’m so glad you all are getting the word out.

    My SIL died in September after having been just diagnosed with a particularly horrible form of Multiple Myeloma (called Plasma Cell Leukemia) in March last year. She fought so hard for the few months after diagnosis (chemo, radiation and then a bone marrow transplant), but in the end the disease was too much for her.

    This is a devastating illness, and MMRF is a really great charity. I’d also encourage people to sign up for bone marrow donation, which saves so many lives (although unfortunately type 1 diabetic can’t donate, I’ve checked.)

    Thanks again for posting this…

    • January 20, 2010 2:42 PM

      I’m so sorry about your sister-in-law. I imagine our compromised immune system makes donating bone marrow a no-no, which is unfortunat, but that’s good info to know that a bone marrow donation could help.

  3. January 20, 2010 6:02 PM

    I love how this is ALL over the internet and even on the Examiner by 4pm. SO much love. I’ve been keeping Brandy in my prayers!

  4. January 21, 2010 2:11 AM

    Heartwarming and touching. Here’s another reason I try my hardest not to complain about diabetes.

  5. January 21, 2010 11:40 AM

    In my prayers. Thank you for posting this.


    Hannah Katy

  6. Tina permalink
    January 24, 2010 4:02 PM

    I apologize I am so late in commenting, but I am trying to catch up on blogs. This an amazing thing you are helping with Allison!

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